Obstacle: Something that blocks your way or hinders your progress.
What is blocking you from your ideal relationship?
Before you say it is him, I want to tell you a story.
I broke my foot a few weeks ago.
Not what I had planned.
I had actually planned: to backpack the Bear River Range, hike in the Tetons, knock off two summits over 12,000 feet, go camping, visit Glacier National Park, rock climb in the City of Rocks, do the Jackson Hole tree course.
And here I am.
It could be tempting to spend time and energy lamenting those trips and experiences but let's look at something.
Have there every been hikers who manage to climb with one leg?
Google Pan Junfan.
Have there ever been rock climbers with one leg?
Google Hugh Herr.
If I wanted to find a way to hike and climb with a broken foot, I GUARANTEE you...
I would.
But the fact is, I didn't want to put the effort into it.
When we stop loving someone it is not because we "fell" out of love.
It is because we stopped working harder for it.
It may have been easy back in the day when he called more
And he paid more attention
And cleaned up after himself
But this is the long haul experience.
Putting time and energy into lamenting what he isn't now, what he doesn't do anymore is not where you power lies.
It is in what you choose to do with what you have.
Has there ever been someone who learned to love their spouse again?
Absolutely.
Then You. Can. Too.
But you won't do it wishing he would change.
You'll doing it deciding what is worth the effort.
If you are someone who is willing to do the work but are not sure which work will get to you more love and connection
I can help you.
Let's schedule a time to talk about your specific challenges.
If you want to start this minute I offer this:
If your spouse were to lose all ability to move, work, contribute today...how would you generate love for him?
You probably already do this with a sleeping baby, a beautiful scene in nature, a person on TV. You love something that gives NOTHING back to you directly.
How are you doing that there?
That is available now.
Here.
The biggest question I get at this moment in a conversation is,
"So am I not supposed to expect anything out of my spouse? I just let him walk over me?"
No.
Because when you love YOU AND you love HIM...you can follow through with boundaries from a place of love.
Still wondering how? Just sign up below and let's take 45 minutes to talk about it.
I've got you.
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